For the past two months, I’ve been exchanging positive affirmations every morning with a small and intimate group of friends. Affirmations are underrated and we need to bring them back in vogue. Who doesn’t want wake up and fall asleep to a personal cheerleading squad that is rooting for your success and happiness? I’ve been so thankful for the community that has rallied around me as I’ve started making significant transitions in my life. The metamorphosis is happening and I’m open to receiving my new challenges and adventures in an edifying and fruitful way.
When I was in college, we used to have a post-it hanging on the bathroom mirror that read something along the lines of: “Ladies, go out and conquer this world. It’s yours for the taking.”
I have a 2.0 version of this on my current bathroom mirror that I look at every morning and evening: “Go out there and make a difference in the world! Show up, be present. Be kind.”
Ask for affirmations from your community. Your community is comprised of people who you love and who love you back with an equal ferocity. For most of my life, I was an incredibly private person who dealt with setbacks that tested my capacity alone. There is a ceiling that you’ll hit when you go at it on your own. There is power in having relationships and a community. Now, when I have a slight shadow of doubt or when I notice that I am feeling impatient with myself, I’ll reach out to a good friend and say: “Hey, I need a positive thought from you today.” 10/10 times, I get something back without fail and it helps me move forward and back into the present.
*Spoiler Alert* I adored all of the epic rebelliousness in “Crazy Rich Asians” and I plan to make the film a classic in my household. Buy a ticket and treat yourself to two hours of laughter and liberation. One of the scenes that was most striking and will stay with me from the film was when Astrid glamorously walked away from Michael after saying: “I shouldn’t have hidden all my successes from you just to make you feel secure – the shopping, the job offers, the charity work. I realize that it is not my job to make you feel like a man. I can’t make you what you are not.” Affirmations, you feel me?
♫ Wo Yao Ni De Ai – Crazy Rich Asians Soundtrack ♫
I’ve been on the road for two weeks now. From New York to the Cape to Maine, I’ve been on an east coast sojourn.